No spark? No worries

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Psychology student Rosie shares her tips on how to make friends outside of your flat and what to do if you don't hit it off straight away.

Whether you’re starting Uni for the first time or moving into a new flat for the year, it’s easy to feel intimidated by the prospect of living with brand-new people. Chances are, you’ve heard the myth that if you don’t get on with your housemates, your Uni experience will be ruined. Luckily, that couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, only a lucky few actually end up getting on with their entire house. While it may be disappointing to not feel a spark with your housemates, it’s completely normal and you can still do plenty of things to make the most of your year.  

1. Stay amicable 

Even if you’re not the best of friends, it’s still a good idea to try and stay on good terms with your housemates. Do your best to respect any rules or boundaries they have within the house, and maybe even smile and say hi whenever you see them. Not only will it make living together a more pleasant experience, but who knows: maybe one day you will feel that spark. Sometimes friendships take time to form and the housemate you barely talked to all of first semester might end up being your favourite person to cook with by the end of the year. 

2. Contact Student Support

While it’s good to remain amicable with your housemates, sometimes that’s just not possible. If your housemates are constantly violating your boundaries, or if your living environment is affecting you negatively, contact the SU Advice & Support Centre or book an appointment with the Student Support Advice Service,  they’ll be able to support you. 

3. Join a society  

Not getting on with your flatmates doesn’t in any way mean you won’t find your people at uni. If you find yourself thinking, “I have no common ground with my housemates, I wish I could meet some people more like me”, you’re in luck! The university has over a hundred different student groups that you can join. Whether it’s a sports team, cultural society, arts group, volunteering project, or that one niche interest you’ve always had, you’re sure to find something that appeals to you. And more importantly, you’re sure to find people who like the same thing that you do. To check out the available student groups, visit the SU website or come to the society fair at the start of each semester.  

4. Attend a social networking group 

Alternatively, the Uni also runs a weekly social networking group for anyone looking to make some new friends. It’s a completely safe space where you can meet new people and do something fun together, be it an arts and crafts session, quiz night, or trip to the bowling alley. There’s also absolutely no obligation to commit regularly, simply come anytime you feel like hanging out. Find out more information about Social Networking Group.  

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